Bakit Nanghuhusga Ang Mga Tao Sa Kapwa

Panghuhugas ay ang nagbibigay depinasyon sa isang tao. Ito ay maaring makakagiba ng reputasyon o makakagawa ng mabuting imahe sa mata ng ating kapwa. Sa panahon ngayon, nakakatakot ng gumawa ng isang maliit na kamalian sapagkat ang mga mata ng panghuhusga at ang bibig na nagpapakalat nito ang siyang nakakagiba ng imahe mo sa mundo. Natural lamang na manghusga ang isang tao sapagkat mayroon tayong kalayaan na magsalita ukol sa ating gustong sabihin at na-aayon sa ating nakikita ngunit maganda nga ba ang lumalabas na mga salita sa ating bibig?

Marami ang nagtatanong kung bakit nanghuhusga ang mga tao sa kapwa, maraming dahilan iyan at isa sa mga ito ay ang inggit. Nababalot ang isang tao ng inggit kaya’t ang kanilang ginagawa ay tinitignan ang bawat kilos ng taong iyon at kapag nakagawa ng isang kamalian ay sinasabi sa iba upang ang mabuting reputasyon ay masira dahil hindi nila abot ang kayang abotin ng taong iyon. Isa pang dahilan kung bakit nanghuhusga ang mga tao ay dahil natural na sa kanila ang manghusga. Mayroon talagang mga taong ganyan na kay basa ng kanilang bibig at walang preno kung magsalita. Sila ay nanghuhusga na lamang dahil maaring nagawa nila ito ngunit nabigo o hindi nila kayang gawin ang ginawa ng taong iyon. Ito ay mga taong tinatawag na chismosa na mga walang magawa sa buhay kundi manghusga ng mga tao na akala mo’y perpekto ang kanilang buhay. At ang panghuli ay nanghuhusga ang mga tao dahil hindi pa nila labis na alam ang nangyayari kaya’t ang hinuhusgahan nalang nila ang kanilang nakikita at base rin sa impormasyong hindi naman sapat. Maari rin itong maihambing sa panghuhusga ng tao base sa itsura ngunit hindi tinitignan ang pangloob na ganda.

Don’t judge the book by its cover ika nga nila, sapagkat mayroong mga bagay na hindi natin nalalaman ukol sa isang tao ngunit hinushugahan natin sila batay sa mga sinasabi ng iba na umabot sa iyong tengga. Karamihan ngayon sa mga tao ay ganoon ang ginagawa, puro kamalian ang nakikita at hindi ang kagandahan ng pagkatao niya dahil nga ay mas marami kang masasabi sa kamalian kesa sa kagandahan. Sana’y mabigyan pa ng mabuting pag-aaral ukol sa isyung ito ang mga tao sa paligid dahil maaring hindi lamang reputasyon ang ating magiba, kundi ang buhay na nila.

Quote: "I want to give light but not like the candle. I don't want to lose myself in the process... Generosity and self-preservation should be allowed together."

There is no problem in helping people that surrounds you. Everyone needs help but don't be like the candle where you'll let youself melt. Losing youself is much more painful than losing a person who is der to you. You will be questioning your worth, and will feel abuse. With that you will start to forget how important yourelf is. the person you have given your all will be provided with love and care that he/she needs, yet doesn't deserve. What about you? The person who had given his all who doesn't get the same amount of attention and things he/she had shared to others. In this generation, I can say that a lot of people does that, being such a parasite and brings too much toxic to someone's life.

As a family culture, we are taught to help others who are in need and with that, I tend to help as much as I had to. In the quote I selected, there are a lot of emotions that I felt inside as I read it and that include the pain as if my brain and body reacts and brought a lot of flashbacks inside my head on how I forgot my self worth. The pain I felt doesn't only apply to me, I felt pain for others who had gone through losing themeselves by helping people just like what happened to me. We, who gives will always bring out the best we can without minding that it slowly destroy us only to satisfy the people who always do the taking. 

We really can't deny the fact that in our entire existence, we had helped someone and I am not an exception. In my 16 years of existence, I had gone through a lot of experience that includes helping and losing my worth. Last 3 years ago, there is this girl whom I met in school. She was nice and we clicked but the thing is she doesn't recognize how worthy she is to be loved. I always give out my best advice, I was there for her until I reached to the point where I made her problem as mine. I poured my love, attention, and everything I can do to make her feel that she is wanted. After 4 months or so, she found her worth and forgot about me, who was there all her darkest hours. She had found her happiness, found new friends while I'm left alone questioning my worth just like what happened to her, I lost myself without me knowing. The girl who always get into the highest honor list went down to honors instantly, the girl who had her attention divided to everything was only focus on one thing, and the girl who knew her worth was contemplating if she is really worth it to be a friend. She was the fire and I let myself become her candle, who lose herself while trying to do her best to help.

"I want to give light but not like the candle. I don't want to lose myself in the process... " As I read this, there are a lot of emotions I felt inside me and that also include thoughts. A lot of thoughts are running inside of my head. One of those thoughts is what I understand in the quote and that is to reach help to others but don't pour all your heart out , do not be like the candle, don't let yourself melt, don't lose yourself. Do not forget how important "you" is. Always put yourself first, if helping means not minding yourself I rather not help at all. I will only have myself when the time comes where all the people who I extend my help to will forget about me. 

Literature teaches us how to live. Literature, makes the reader experience events, meet people through books, fictional character who can make them feel the same joy and suffering that the character or author felt. Just like literature, quotes is the same thing. It can make you feel the joy an suffering that the author felt, the emotions that is poured into the quote. Not only that it, you can learn something from quotes. You can get a lot of ideas that the authors gathered that is out of experience and out of the emotions they felt. That makes both of them special, it mirrors the society, the people and their mannerism

Helping is a human's nature, a response if someone is experiencing something he/she cannot do alone. We can always help people but don't make it reach to the point where you'll let yourself lose in the process of helping someone. With the quote I selected, everyone can relate and with quotes you will learn from the pain and experiences of others. It will make you understand something through this. I conclude we are blessed with quotes that'll educate us